Are You Orgasmically Challenged?

If you're anything like me, you have a real hard time nutting to the beat of everyone else's drum. And even a seasoned orgasm subversive wants to just fall in line and take the path of least resistance from time to time.

Hi. My name is Virgie, and I'm orgasmically challenged. It all goes back to the breast fetish... the inability to orgasm without thinking of boobies. Boobies are endlessly hot, so it's not the orgasms - exactly - that are the challenge. It's the trying-to-orgasm-with-other-people thing that seems to be the problem. And even things like cumming with a vibrator or a dildo are quite challenging for me because I'm quite dependent on my hand. If I went to a therapist, I'd get what's called cognitive-behavioral therapy. And I'd probably be on a strict diet where I'd only be allowed to masturbate via the ways that I hate (I hate them because they take longer.. sometimes way longer and because they don't always lead to an orgasm).

It seems to me that many people have some trouble with orgasms: Everything from the old-school vibrator-dependency all the way through to the guy who holds his dick too hard while he's jacking off and doesn't know why he can't get off in anything beside a vice-grip.

The last thing I read on the subject said that about half of U.S. women don't orgasm during intercourse (but many can orgasm through oral sex). Diversifying the way that we orgasm can be a tall order, and it's hard to try new things when you know what works. If you were to listen to experts like Carol Queen, you'd learn that practice is the key to cumming this, that, and every way; if you always lie on your back when you masturbate, try lying on your stomach or on your side. It's like exercise for your clit.